10/26/2020 0 Comments Lost for Words? 8 Great Points for Conversation When There's Nothing to Talk About.We've all been there. Whether it be a house party, speaking to a stranger or even a close relative/friend, we've all had times when we feel a strong desire to say something, yet nothing comes to mind leaving a long and painfully awkward silence. In the most awkward of circumstances, you may find yourself with someone who is trying really hard to talk to you, but you simply have little to nothing to contribute to the conversation, leaving them feeling as if you lack interest in what they're saying. If you often find yourself struggling to muster up a topic for discussion, the following are 8 fantastic topics for conversation, which will allow you to always have something to say, without the other person feeling left out or alienated. A great way, by the way, to fin d a topic for conversation, is sending a loving message in the morning, and all day long you’ll have what to talk about. She’ll start by saying how nice of you!
And then you can talk about the following: 1. Sports. Sport is a brilliant topic for conversation as most people have at least one sport that they have some interest in. If you often feel like you have nothing in common with the person you're talking with, there's a good chance that they'll appreciate a quick update in the sporting world, and your views surrounding the most recent events. If you're simply not interested in sport, but still want to be able to use this topic in conversation, spend some time each week keeping yourself up to date with what's going on in football, hockey, tennis and the Olympics etc. 2. Food. Since we all eat and have varying diets, food and drink can certainly be an interesting topic for discussion. If you're at a restaurant or bar, you could inquire about what the other person is eating and ask whether they like it. You could also ask about the person's favourite meals as well as foods that you haven't tried, and perhaps whether they'd recommend them to you. It's possible that you can lead the conversation towards different diets such as vegetarianism or veganism and start a (light hearted) discussion surrounding the person's dietary choices. 3. Major events. The great thing about talking about major events is that it can lead to a plethora of further conversations. It's a good idea to be sensitive with events such as terror attacks, as if you're talking to a stranger, you never quite know how they'll react. Try to keep the conversation light and fun, unless you know the other person well enough to have a serious, down-to-earth conversation. 4. The Weather. It's perhaps not the best choice of conversation to rely on, however, it is certainly useful in many awkward situations where you have nothing to say. Talking about the weather is effective as everyone can relate since everyone is affected by the weather in some fashion. This relatability allows both parties to have something to say about the topic, making it a great conversation starter. You should avoid talking about the weather for too long. Whilst it can spark a conversation, in order to give the conversation more substance, it's wise to lead the topic towards other topics like sports. An example could be "The weather has been great today, hopefully, it will be this way for the cricket match this Wednesday. Are you planning on watching the match?" This successfully allows the conversation to remain relevant to the weather topic, whilst leading it towards sports, making the transition as smooth as possible. 5. Hobbies. Most if not all people have some form of activity that they like to engage in on a regular basis. Whether it be video gaming, writing poetry or playing a music instrument, bringing up the topic of hobbies can get you out of the dreaded long periods of silence. As always, if you are talking with a stranger it's usually best to ask about the other person's hobbies and learn as much as you can about them. However, it's not a bad idea to also bring up your own hobbies and discuss those too. Again your ability to listen attentively is crucial in this situation, as you should try to find something relatable about their hobby. This way you can show your interest by giving your own input, instead of remaining completely silent. 6. Connections you have in common. This is an interesting topic if you're talking to someone at an event such as a wedding or a party. Questions such as "So, how do you know the host?" allow you to learn more about the person and give you room to share how you came to know the host as well. You'll come to find that the best topics of conversation are those that allow both parties room to give and receive, which is why talking about people you both know is a great way to escape silence. 7. Relationships and family. Whenever you're in doubt, you can be sure that the person you're talking to has a family or current relationship and something to say about them. You could say something as simple as "Do you have any siblings?" and voila you've started a conversation. Discussing relationships and a person's family is a fantastic way to learn more about the person, and really connect with them on an intimate level. It is for this reason that you need to be especially careful not to offend the person whilst discussing this topic, if you're discussing a dead relative or someone that is close to them. If possible, you should try to avoid the sub-topic of family deaths as it can bring about a negative mood. 8. Work. Talking about work can be a great way to become better acquainted with the person in question. You can ask about the person's current job, their previous jobs and where they'd like to go in the future. The scope for this topic really is limitless, especially since we all have dreams and desires for our careers. Bonus: Just Ask Questions! Sometimes a long silence indicates a time to ask questions, rather than start rambling about your own life. It is a universally accepted fact that people generally love to talk about themselves, especially when they can talk about something that they are passionate about. If you are talking to a stranger, there's a wide range of questions that you can ask to learn more about their interests and allow plenty of room to develop the conversation into something more meaningful. If you're unsure of what kinds of questions to ask, it's safe to ask a simple "how are you?" or "how's your day going?" If you're talking to a friend, then these questions are still effective, but you should already have some idea as to their interests and be able to ask more topic specific questions. An important note when asking questions is that you need to really listen to the person you're talking to. You'll notice that certain things they say allow you to give your own input, and they'll be impressed with some of the things you manage to pick up on if you do pay attention. Remember, it's always better to be interested than simply interesting.
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